Alcohol-Free Dating and Sex…In the City

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In my 17 odd months of (mostly) sober living, I have discovered a whole new fascinating world that is alcohol-free (AF) dating! Before my more AF days, dating was everything and anything but free from booze, nor was it really ‘dating’. Instead, this usually entailed meeting some guy at a bar, drinking copious amounts of alcohol and shouting conversation over blaring renditions of Queen’s Bohemian Rhapsody. Drink after drink would be consumed and the night would become blurrier and blurrier and then sometimes even fade completely as periods of blackouts…

That Time I Slipped and Ate a Moderate Piece of Humble Pie

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Warning: this blog may contain strong language. Reader discretion is advised. Fuck. Recently I did that thing I wasn’t supposed to do. That thing I blog about not doing, the thing I speak about constantly and research endlessly. I got white-girl wasted. If you have been following my blogs you would have read that I have been practicing ‘moderation management’ for the last few months, and that it’s been going really well. You would have also found a bunch of useful tips I prescribed for drinking moderately – including diluting…

That Alcohol Moderation Thing

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We’ve all heard the term ‘everything in moderation’ countless times. But, when we really look into this notion – we find that this is generally not what many people believe. I mean, this doesn’t really apply when we talk about taking certain drugs such as heroin or crack does it? What about alcohol? Can alcohol be consumed and enjoyed moderately? What about people with alcohol dependencies or ‘alcoholism’? The word ‘moderation’ in the recovery world seems to be one that is often quickly scurried out of the conversation and dismissed…

9 Months off the Booze Bandwagon – Things to Expect

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Having recently just ended a 9 month period of alcohol-free living and stepping into the ‘moderation’ game, it’s only fitting that I feel a re-birth of sorts. Emerging with a new sense of self, of identity, of habits and ideas after a warm and fuzzy sober incubation period, I feel like a tiny, screaming, distressed little baby, entering a scary new world again. It’s been a fascinating process full of ups and downs. But before I get into my experiences of drinking again, I thought I might share a few…

Raise the Legal Drinking Age to 21 in SA? SA has 5 Days to Comment

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The South African public has 5 more days to comment on the new National Liquor Amendment Bill which the Department of Trade and Industry has put forward (link to Bill here: http://www.gov.za/sites/www.gov.za/files/40319_gon1206.pdf) SA has one of the highest level of alcohol consumption around the world, some of the highest levels of foetal alcohol syndrome and well as a massive 41% of injuries are related to the consumption of alcohol. Not to mention the crazy death tolls around Easter. But somehow, along the way, we decided this was normal, and OK.…

A Funny Thing Happens When you Stop Drinking…

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Around five months ago, I decided to stop drinking. The decision, although brewing under the surface for years (pun intended 😛 ), seemed to arrive suddenly, and sporadically, forcing itself to the forefront of my consciousness. It was the day after Valentine’s day, a Monday morning. I woke up to go to work, and felt the familiar twang of a hangover from a weekend of festivities, blurry memories, and a horrible gash on my leg from an unidentified drunken injury (or UDI as it is conveniently termed). Just another weekend…

ACT 1 SCENE 1: Introducing Holiday Roy

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By Roy Gluckman (Empty stage. No lights. Upon speaking, a spot light lights up Roy, our protagonist and subject under discussion. He lifts his bowed head slightly and begins addressing the crowd nonchalantly.) I’ve always interpreted the quote by Napoleon Hill quite literally: “You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.” However, realising that “my destiny” was not, in fact, up to me exclusively, and that rather it involved a myriad…

Alcohol and Sugar – Ugly Stepsisters

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Hi, I’m Andrea, and I am a cake addict. Having just passed the 3 month mark of no alcohol, I feel proud of my achievement, and also surprised at how easy it has been! Although typically met with gasps and utter horror by others at the mention that I am not drinking, my life has remained remarkably normal and, in fact, even more awesome than ever before. Positive aspects from not drinking: I have picked up several hobbies again (drawing/ hooping/ Pilates/dance) I’ve developed an interest in trying new things…

Falling in Love with Life Again

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By Maya Kiusalaas “You should be so happy you are alive”, the nurse said as she pulled the respiratory tube out of my mouth and I regained consciousness. I had no idea where I was or why I was here. Bright blueish light and beeping machines surrounded me. I turned around and saw my mum and dad, sitting next to me, happy to meet my eyes, but not without a hint of fright at what I had been capable of. As I opened my mouth to speak I felt a…