Teetotaler, Turning Thirty & Falling off a Pink Cloud

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A few weeks ago I entered into my 30’s completely sober. It had been around 18 months since I left my inebriated days behind me. OK yes…barring a failed attempt at ‘moderation’ somewhere in between, which to be honest, I don’t really count. In fact, the concept of starting from day 1 after this ‘blip’ as many treatment programmes would encourage, felt disingenuous to the 9 months of hard work I had put in before. Truth be told, my attempt at moderation was just as much a part of my…

What Living a Sober Life Taught Me About Simplicity

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By Robert Grobbelaar When I first entered the world of recovery I discovered an encyclopedia of catch-phrases or mantras that are used to suggest certain behaviors for a successful, happy journey to sobriety. They are largely used in treatment centers, meetings, conventions and so on. Some of them were quite clear and others I didn’t understand so much, until I reached the ‘other side’ and got sober. One such phrase is: Keep it simple. Quite easy to understand and it seems to make sense. The simpler things are the less…

How I Stopped Drinking and Started Living

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By Robert Grobbelaar I don’t believe that there is a one-size-fits all solution for getting sober. We’re all so different and are in different circumstances and what worked for me may not work for another. It only makes sense that each of us will have to find a path that suits our lives. If you ask me how I did it I am still a little baffled and feel so utterly blessed! I do however think that some principles were key to me getting clean and sober, and they could…

Alcohol-Free Dating and Sex…In the City

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In my 17 odd months of (mostly) sober living, I have discovered a whole new fascinating world that is alcohol-free (AF) dating! Before my more AF days, dating was everything and anything but free from booze, nor was it really ‘dating’. Instead, this usually entailed meeting some guy at a bar, drinking copious amounts of alcohol and shouting conversation over blaring renditions of Queen’s Bohemian Rhapsody. Drink after drink would be consumed and the night would become blurrier and blurrier and then sometimes even fade completely as periods of blackouts…

That Time I Slipped and Ate a Moderate Piece of Humble Pie

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Warning: this blog may contain strong language. Reader discretion is advised. Fuck. Recently I did that thing I wasn’t supposed to do. That thing I blog about not doing, the thing I speak about constantly and research endlessly. I got white-girl wasted. If you have been following my blogs you would have read that I have been practicing ‘moderation management’ for the last few months, and that it’s been going really well. You would have also found a bunch of useful tips I prescribed for drinking moderately – including diluting…

That Alcohol Moderation Thing

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We’ve all heard the term ‘everything in moderation’ countless times. But, when we really look into this notion – we find that this is generally not what many people believe. I mean, this doesn’t really apply when we talk about taking certain drugs such as heroin or crack does it? What about alcohol? Can alcohol be consumed and enjoyed moderately? What about people with alcohol dependencies or ‘alcoholism’? The word ‘moderation’ in the recovery world seems to be one that is often quickly scurried out of the conversation and dismissed…

9 Months off the Booze Bandwagon – Things to Expect

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Having recently just ended a 9 month period of alcohol-free living and stepping into the ‘moderation’ game, it’s only fitting that I feel a re-birth of sorts. Emerging with a new sense of self, of identity, of habits and ideas after a warm and fuzzy sober incubation period, I feel like a tiny, screaming, distressed little baby, entering a scary new world again. It’s been a fascinating process full of ups and downs. But before I get into my experiences of drinking again, I thought I might share a few…